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Biblical Keys to Healthy Relationships: Part 1 - Right Thinking About the Bible

Biblical Keys to Healthy Relationships: Part 1 - Right Thinking About the Bible

Three famous seminary professors were asked which book of the Bible they would prefer to have with them if stranded on an island. The first professor said, “The Psalms.” The second one said, “The book of Romans.” The third professor said, “I wouldn’t want any of them.” Surprised by his answer, they asked him what book he would choose. He said, “The Basics for How to Build a Boat.”

Many people are like that third professor. They do not see the Bible as a practical guide for the mundane, bare necessities of life. Many view the Bible as a kind of religious relic that should be displayed prominently on their coffee table but never read. Others only go to the Bible when they need comfort. Still, others may quote verses like a positive-thinking mantra.

But did you know that the Bible (among other things) is God’s blueprint for life?

It’s not just for “religious” people or for “religious” activities. It is God’s revealed word to all of humanity.

Do you allow God’s Word to guide your thinking in relationships?

Admittedly, living out the truths of Scripture is easier said than done. When people wrong us for no reason, what do we naturally want to do? Wrong them back, right? But how does the Bible tell us to respond?

“Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.” (Romans 12:14)

If someone runs over your foot with a shopping cart to be the first in line, what would you naturally want to do? Yell at him/her? Retaliate by running over his/her foot? But, according to the Bible, how should you react?

“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.” (Matthew 5:38-39)

If a man’s wife constantly disrespects him or puts him down in public, what would that husband naturally want to do? Retaliate by verbally or physically attacking her? Become cold towards her? But how does the Bible say he should respond?

“Husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the church…” And how did Christ show His love for the church? He “gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)

Finally, if a woman’s husband refused to provide for his family or behaved as though he were not married, what would that wife naturally want to do? Nag him about being a better husband? Tell her friends how undependable he is? Leave him? But what instructions does the Bible offer her?

“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.” (1 Peter 3:1-2)

You see the Bible can be our guide to building quality relationships if we will only trust it as God’s instruction manual for daily living.

Alonza Jones is president and co-founder of Biblical Marriage Institute based in Birmingham, Al.
Copyright © 2017 Alonza D. Jones, Jr. All rights reserved.

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